Whip-wise whispers of wisdom – from your closet

by Kate Woodland on July 27, 2011

Hello special you,

We, that is, me and your clothes, want you to know that we think you are beautiful. With or without us. Some of us are utterly in love with you. Some of us, sadly, love you a little less utterly.

While hanging out, lying down or hiding away we’ve all agreed that we must to talk with you. We’ve felt like this for sometime. We feel you’re finally ready to hear us out.

This is what we have to say…

We are immensely grateful to you for rescuing us. Aiding our escape, from shopping malls’, unflattering light. The cold steel feel of metal hangers. And, mindless, constant, careless rifling and mangling. Our joy of freedom, however, gets quickly diminished when we witness your shame and pain of buyers’ remorse.

We are of mixed fortunes. Some of us are clearly favoured, enjoying regular ventures out, while others, see the light of day, only, once or twice. Others of us only get to experience one-off special occasions. A hot first date… a friends wedding… the firm’s Christmas party… the races. Obviously, disappointing you, we are cast aside the next first date, wedding, party or race.

There are many of us who’d like to go out together. We’ve heard the latest catwalk talk. Stripes and checks. Floral and dots. Work. Together. Stylishly. We know we can complement each other. Give you more options. Put paid to your whines of, ‘I never have anything to wear.’ Perhaps. Even. You’d realise you could live with less of us. And, halt your need to constantly replenish.

Some of us are so ashamed of our abandonment. Languishing between the soft, seductive tissue of  the designer, look good, shopping bag. Still tagged. We love you less utterly.

We lie confused. Dejected. Useless without intended purpose. Our pained whispers, reach the, privileged, hanging high above. ‘I heard her say she must have us…how perfect w’d be with her purple pants…how she’d always wanted one just like us and how worth us she was.’ And now…well we’re still wrapped and tagged. Frankly. What the fuck is that all about?

The more intuitive of us knew when you’d never wear us. Bought impulsively. With hope. For a better feeling you. A more attractive you. Or, as a cure all remedy, for a broken heart. A sunken spirit. A sucky life.

You even try, to give some of us super powers. Like… making you look 4 kilos lighter… gifting you inordinate motivation, and stamina, to live on cabbage soup. For a month. Or two. Until we fit.

Even more ridiculously, you empower us to make your dreams come true. A stellar, six figure career… a white wedding to a George Clooney lookalike… a perfect life. We wish!

We’re sorry. We let you down. Big time.

The truth is. We were never up to the job. Some of us can fake it for a bit. But, in reality it’s not our strong suite or our life’s purpose. We’re merely sackcloth and ashes.

This might sound a little harsh but…you must source your happiness from within.

Outsourcing your happiness, at best brings you a shallow short burst. At, worst it has you disappointed. Dependent. Depleted. Ever wanting more. Even addicted.

We’ve heard you have the highest super power.

The power to create the life you want. Yes. Really. Right here. Right now.

And, finally questions and a request or two.

Take us all out and appraise us.

Honestly. Do you still love us? Do we still fit? Did we ever fit? Have you worn us in the past 12 months? Do we make you feel amazing? (We sooo want to) Will you wear us again, soon?

If you can’t say yes, then with grace and respect, set us free. Donate us. Amend us. Ditch us.

Us, the lucky left ones, want you to feel the girly glee of gorgeousness.

You are amazing. Unique and beautiful. With or without us.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We thank you for listening.

 

 

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5 ways to practice self-love.

by Kate Woodland on July 21, 2011

 

 

Post fashion fasting, I’ve surrendered to the delicious delight of self-love. Its SO darn sweet. Succulent. Juicy. And… oh so new!

I’m lovin’ it. Dancing, childlike. Playful. Unabashed and free. A spirit unearthed in a sunlit green and life diverse forest.

Its like I’ve found me. My essence. I’m seeing me, for the very first time. And, let me tell you, its a very different me than the one I thought you wanted me to be. The one I thought you’d like and love. Protect and cherish. You, being past lovers.

And, you did. At most. At great cost. To me.

Self-love is a glorious thing. Its also exciting scary for a new found self-loving girl. It’s like its just the beginning. The cusp of all your magnitude.

New found empowerment arrives with commands. Taunting. Testing.

‘Step on up. Claim your place. Parade your potential. Pop your purpose. Blaze your own fiery trail. Leave a legacy.’

No more freaking faffing and fiddling. Playing small. Excusing. Evading. Exiting on a whim.

Its calling time to play-it-BIG. Real and true. For you and me. The community. The World.

Right now. VERY fucking scary.

Self-doubt still lingers. It’s still watching. Waiting. Alert and lurking in the shadows. Stealing and stalking with stealth, between the chinks of the many, nurtured years of fear and negative self-talk.

With self-doubt self-sabotage sneaks. Mine came dressed as clothes shopping.

And so, it is wise to practice self-love. Every day.

5 practices for self-love.

Discover and embrace your values. Pay them close attention. LOVE-them-up. And they will love you back. Guiding you true. My values include gratitude, nature, kindness, creativity, beauty, space and freedom. If I fail to indulge them, often, they have me cranky, grey and empty. Discover yours on http://www.strengthsfinder.com

Do work that strengthens you. Note your feelings, mood and efficiency as you undertake your daily tasks. What do you rush to do. Doing so with ease, time flying by? And, completed, have you satisfied, enriched and energised. Alternatively, what do you continually put off? Until, your boss, done with excuses, issues ultimatums that has you, on completion, depleted, tired and demotivated? Find your 5 strengths at http://www.strengthsfinder.com

Be a Mensch. In the Yiddish tradition. Honest. Fair. Kind. Transparent. No matter your audience. No matter whether you are seen or acknowledged. First be a Mensch to yourself. Then get out there and be your Mensch in the World.

We should give as we would receive, cheerfully, quickly and without hesitation; for there is no grace in a benefit that sticks to the fingers. - Seneca

Purge your past portfolio. What stories do you cling on to? What excuses do you make? What stuff do you hide and hide behind. What are your if only’s? What do you know to ditch but don’t? And why? What stops you living your authentic self? Ditch your crap. Cleanse and clarify. To do so ensures that your past is your past. Not your present. And, not, your almost certain future. Know, it is a great privilege in life to be you.

Nourish yourself. Eat well. Processed, fat, sugar and chemical enriched food will have you feeling like shite. Because it is shite. It depletes your energy. Vitality and joy. Physically and mentally. Eat from the earth. Indulge in veggies, fruit, nuts and seeds, white and wild meat, soy, legumes, good oils, dark chocolate and water. Visit megworden.com for her super healthy, super real insights at Feed, me darling.

To be nobody but myself – in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make me somebody else – means to fight the hardest battle any human can fight, and never stop fighting.

– e.e.cummings





 

 

 

I’m loving self-loving. It is soft. Sweet. Juicy. Like biting in to a sun ripened golden peach. Sucking and licking at its honeyed nectar. Childlike playfulness. Unabashed. Lost in the moment.

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